WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE DOING LOVING KINDNESS MEDITATION

To start doing loving kindness meditation, firstly one should review the danger in hate and also the advantage of doing loving kindness meditation. Why? Because if one did not see the danger in hate and the advantage of doing loving kindness meditation. they will not be able to improve loving kindness in their mind perfectly. You can understand, if you don’t really know the benefit of what you are trying to do, you will not try your best to do it or you can do it perfectly. But when you know the advantage of doing that thing you have the inspiration to do it.

You can review the danger in hate such as when you get angry you become ugly person even you wear a beautiful clothes or make up your face but when you got angry you talk something not lovely, doing things badly. People will see your bad action, and that time you become bad person.

and, the advantage of doing loving kindness are: it will remove all your barriers, hatred, boring as well as restoring humanity and kindness refresh yourself with good feeling.

six types of people you should get rid of for very first time   

After reviewing the danger in hate and the advantage of doing loving kindness meditation, you should also know who is a suitable person that you can start to do loving kindness to. For the beginners who start doing loving kindness for the first time should avoid six kinds of people, not to do loving kindness with them.

1)    An antipathetic person

2)    A very dearly loved friend

3)    A neutral person

4)    A hostile person

5)    the opposite sex person

6)    the dead person

What is the reason why it should not be developed at first towards an antipathetic person and the others? To put an antipathetic person in a dear one’s place is fatiguing. To put a very dearly loved friend in a neutral person’s place is fatiguing; and if the slightest mischance befalls the friend, ones or a dear one’s place is fatiguing. Anger springs up in him if he recollects a hostile person. That is why it should not be developed at first towards an antipathetic person and the rest.

Then if he develops it specifically towards the opposite sex, lust inspired by that person springs up in him. An elder supported by a family was asked, it seems, by a friend’s son venerable sir, towards whom should loving kindness be developed? The elder told him, towards a person one loves. He loved his own wife. Through developing loving kindness towards her he was fighting against the wall all the night. That is why it should not be developed specifically towards the opposite sex.

 And also to a dead person, loving kindness cannot be developed. Because doing loving kindness must have a life that needs to have loving kindness to. With a dead person loving kindness will not appear. After knowing these, now you are ready to do loving kindness meditation.